You have worked out that something is going on in your relationship that is keeping you from peace and wholeness. You have probably tried to do some things about it on your own but this has not made as much of a difference as you wanted. You have come to the conclusion that you and your partner could use some help by someone who has experience working through the issues that you face. Then, like many others in the same situation, your partner says they do not want to come with you. Others have found this frustrating. Others feel that this makes them lose hope that things will ever change. Can you even do couples therapy alone? It can be easy to want to give up on the relationship or at least that the relationship will improve. This situation is faced by many people, so Christopher was part of an expert panel that addressed this situation. Watch it here:

Ideas Expressed in the Video

Tell him she is going and he can come if he wants.

I’ve had just as many men call as women.

Maybe with a male this will work out for me.

The man might be calling saying that this is one of the few places we can come. My wife has a problem that we got to work out.

What you’ve been doing, whatever it turns out to be, it’s not working. Would you like to experiment? Would you like to try something new?

You wish you could say, “Get your butt in here right now.”

Stop talking and just come in.

Where do you think things are going to be in five years time? Where will you be in one years time?

There’s so many factors that stop someone from coming to therapy: there is the cultural, practices, traditions. If your parents had a long standing marriage, you feel like a failure.

You are already talking to other people about what is going on…are you really going to places where you will get good guidance?

 

Next Steps

Even if your partner will not come to sessions with you, you do not have to do couples therapy alone – our staff are ready to work with you on your own first and help you to involve your partner (whether in the sessions or through things we do together with you). If this is your situation, please book an appointment or get in touch with one of our staff members.